Often, when we’re unhappy, we fall into the habit of thinking that, if only one or two particular things in our life would change, everything would be fine. We might focus on the fact that we need a new car, or a raise, or a change in our living situation. We dwell on this one thing and strategize, or complain, or daydream about what it would be like to have it. Meanwhile, underneath the surface, the real reason for our unhappiness sits unrecognized and unaddressed. And yet, if we are able to locate and explore the underlying cause of our discontent, all the surface concerns have a way of working themselves out in the light of our realization.
Maybe we really do just need a new car, and maybe moving to another city would improve our life situation. However, it can only help to take some time to explore what’s going on at a deeper level. Sometimes, when we take a moment and stop focusing on external concerns, we get to the heart of the matter. We might realize that all our lives we’ve been dissatisfied, grasping at one thing after another, only to be dissatisfied about something else once we get what we want. Or perhaps we’ll notice a pattern of running away from a place, or a relationship, when things get too hard. We might then wonder why this keeps happening, and how we might work through the difficulty rather than just escaping it. The point is, slowing down and turning our attention within can save us a lot of energy in the long run, because it is very often the case that there is no external change that will make us happy.
Once you’ve taken the time to inquire within, you can begin to make changes that address the deeper issue. This can be hard at first, especially if you’ve grown used to grasping for outside sources in order to quell your discontent, but in the end, you will be solving the problem at a deeper level, and it will be much less likely to recur.
A practice that can be done at year’s end to help usher in the new and escort out the old is to take some time and write (hand write) down some things that you want to release and then burning the paper in a fire.
It can be as simple as a single word, or as complex as you need it to be. But spend time on it; at least a couple of hours. You can do this over several days, but don’t rush or skimp on your writing time.
Then on New Year’s Eve, you can light a fire. It can be a small fire bowl, a fire-pit, or your fireplace. Safely light a fire and sit with the fire for a few minutes’ time. Don’t rush this. Close your eyes and sit with your fire and what you want to release for a few minutes. See what you want release, see how much you want to move on from it. Then see the smoke rise in your mind as you release what you need to.
When you’re then ready, safely drop your paper(s) into your fire. See the paper burn up, and the smoke rise, releasing you. Anything that’s held you back, it’s time to let it go. .Allow yourself to experience whatever you will about this as your paper burns away; anger, fear, anxiousness, sadness, loss, gratitude. Let it all out like the rising smoke from the burnt paper.
Close with an affirmation. Close your eyes again and say goodbye to the past once and for all, and to whatever has been holding you back. See yourself in your new life without what you released. Feel the relief, like a weight finally off your shoulders. Take a deep breath and let the exhale extend, like the last bit of release.
It can be helpful to write out your new intentions, something on paper as a reminder to create your new life. Re-visit in three months to check your progress. And finally, re-visit next year to see how you’ve done.
Let’s all make 2021 our best and most free year yet.
This is one of three short books of the NY Times Best-Sellers’ set called What You Do Matters by Kobi Yamada. This particular book shows us how our inner dialogue can affect us acting on an opportunity that is before us, and what we can do to overcome it.
Thank you to Sgt. Vierk of the Clawson Police Department for doing such a great reading job!
To be a Mother to the World, one needs to look no further for example than to the person that sacrifices parts of herself or himself in order to give the next generation a good chance; a better chance maybe than they had themselves.
Things like planting a tree, and knowing full well that you’ll never get to enjoy the tree’s shade or fruit. Still, you plant the tree for the next generation to enjoy.
Like this. You are careful to consider your words and your actions, and how they might affect someone else. Because you have this little life that depends on you now. Little eyes that look up to you to build their foundation from which they’ll see their world.
Being a Mother to the World is no different. You experience the connection between you and someone you’ve never met, someone you don’t know at all. And know that from that point on, you keep those connections in mind when you make decisions, and when you act, as you’re carrying out your life. You realize that you are a part of something much bigger than yourself. It becomes much more fulfilling and worthwhile.
Thank you to all the Mothers, and to the Mothers of the World. We literally owe our lives to you, and we’ll promise to give the next generation a good start-off.
Observing Earth Day and battling COVID-19 aren’t too far apart from each other. . Both require attention to be taken away from ourselves and placed on something else. This is a good thing to do. . It helps to realize our connection to each other, and our shared planet. That we’re all a part of something much large than ourselves. . Becoming more conscious and aware of this connection can open a whole new dimension, perspective and a way of doing more than just existing here. A decision to step in and help where one can becomes a non-issue and an automatic response. . So let’s do our part in both situations; lets all help to contain and understand this new threat to our lives; and at the same time that we’re becoming more aware of the virus, let’s also place awareness on our surroundings and our live. What is really needed and necessary and what no longer serves us. How we can live more simply, without so much stuff, and how we can lessen our footprints on the only home we share with so much other life. . The future is coming soon. .. #earthday#protectthisEarth Day Network #coronavirus#covid_19#futureiscoming KennebunkportMaine
It’s no accident that oil lamps have been used for centuries to create a sense of stillness in a room. The flame of an oil lamp is much steadier tv than the flicker of a candle, lending to the environment of still and healthy quiet contemplation.
If you’re ever someplace and walk into a room where an oil lamp is lit, you will see. A certain “slow down” will happen naturally within you before too long.
Lets slow down on the inside as we also slow down on the outside and lets see what happens.
A few days ago, a friend asked me if I had a favorite quote, or mantra or something I said to myself every day. I thought I’d share my answer in case it resonated with anyone else.
Asatoma Sadgayama is Sanskrit; roughly translated to English it comes out as “from untruth to truth.”
Not a religious text, and even though it originates from the east it isn’t eastern either. If you think about the translation, moving from untruth to truth is pretty much applicable to anyone, anywhere.
It means working on dropping what we’ve gathered; perceptions, ideas, habits; anything that is acquired unconsciously and moving towards living more consciously. Letting go of what we’ve accumulated so far in our lives and moving towards what we really are. Which is a conscious being.
That’s a pretty universal idea, isn’t it? Faced with the question, would you really want to hang on to some automatic behaviors instead of stopping and saying “wait a minute’, why do I think this, or why do I do that?”
There was a song that was popular a few years ago that had a line in it that went “I don’t know why I say the things I say, but I say them any-way”
Reminded me of some words I read recently where the topic discussed was the 28-30 year cycles in life; the idea being that we run through cycles during our lifetimes, repeating behaviours and situations until or unless we wake up one day and stop. And, that we really don’t begin to have an idea what life is all about until we’re in our 70s or 80s, after running through these cycles.
The whole idea of intentionally working on oneself is to shove a stick in the wheel of repetitive behaviors and say “hang on a minute here”, and look a little deeper at what we’re doing (or not doing) and try to see why it all is so that we can make the decision to continue or stop and do something else.
Asatoma Sadgayama. Moving from untruth to truth. Sounds to me like something worth repeating to oneself every day.